While the world is celebrating the month of love, some people are getting their hearts broken…
So, this one is dedicated to all you sad people.
Get a grip on yourself.
I know I sound pretty harsh, but just listen.
Letting go and moving on from someone is probably the hardest thing in life. It’s not just difficult because you lose someone, but because you also lose the sweetness in those memories of times spent together. Sure, things didn’t go the way you wanted, but there were good times too right? This is probably why it is even harder to let go.
So what do you do in such a situation?
Most people tend to try and patch things up. There can be two reasons for this. First, you are “actually” in love with that person, and can’t let go because it’s wrong to do so. Second, you are “habitual” of that person being in your life, so a sudden change like this leaves you harrowed and distraught.
If the first reason is true for you, by all means, go get em! But, if yours is reason number two, I urge you, move on. As habits can be formed, they can be broken too.
So how did you get into this mess?
Most people have heard about this phenomenon called “beer-goggles”, where you are so intoxicated, everything starts looking all rosy. Similarly, one can experience “love-goggles” when entering a new relationship. You keep ignoring all the warning signs, every little quirk looks cute to you. Mind you, you are in for a hell of a ride! Because as soon as the ‘honeymoon period’ of the relationship is over, you’ll start getting irritated by all the cutesy things your girlfriend/boyfriend did. For instance, you liked her laugh, it was eccentric… but now, you even can’t stand it for a few moments. You laughed when your boyfriend acted dumb when you first started dating? You probably hate him being always like that now…
Is love enough?
Every wrong relationship in this world has an end, but some choose to suffer, thinking that ‘love’ is the most important thing, but it isn’t. The world feeds us so much crap about “happily ever after”; that people just latch on to one person and think yeah, this is IT. There is SO much more to a relationship than just love: – trust, understanding, caring, friendship, personal boundaries; and the most important – respect and happiness! Why would you come into a relationship in the first place if it didn’t make you happy?
It is absolutely true that when a person first falls for someone, it’s for their appearance. But it is also equally true that “Beauty attracts the eye, but personality captures the heart”. So to say that one must not be dazzled by the vessel, but try and find out what’s inside would be an apt warning.
In the end, every wrong equation must be resolved, every wrinkle straightened. If it means to end the relationship, so be it. Do not be disheartened by this loss, look at it like a life experience. Your life never depends on another person anyways, you are free to do what you want, feel what you want, and be what you want. And you never know, love might just be waiting for you around the corner 😉
I’m kidding, the world is round. You need to find that love in yourself first, and then you may find someone who will love you for who you really are. Besides, you weren’t born committed, right?
Stay Awesome \m/
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